April 20, 2021

HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND AND STOP FEARING REJECTION 💪

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Hello my wonderful friend! Today’s video is on how to get a girlfriend and stop fearing rejection. I have six tips for you today that when applied will help you destroy the fear of rejection.

As a certified coach this is something I have researched a ton, I’ve applied these things in my life and I can tell you that they work. I also have a special bonus for you at the end of this video that I think you’re going to find very comforting and it’s going to be a huge surprise, so be sure to watch to the end. Before we get started be sure to subscribe and ring that notification bell. My name is Melannie, I’m a dating and relationship coach for Christian men. I help you get the girl of your dreams.

I’m also the creator of the online course How to Get a Girlfriend so be sure to click on the link in the description below to learn more about that. Now speaking about how to get a girlfriend one of the biggest things that holds so many good people back from their dream relationship and from getting a girlfriend is the fear of rejection. This can be very very paralyzing. First just know that this is totally normal, but you don’t have to stay there.

You can blast past it and have the girl of your dreams. So let’s get started with how to get a girlfriend and stop fearing rejection. Tip number 1 is to acknowledge and validate how you are feeling. It’s really hard for us to move past something and let something go if we’re hiding from it. You can’t really heal from a wound that you aren’t even acknowledging.https://www.cnn.com/2012/06/20/justice/new-york-dating-game/index.html

And so it’s important to just validate yeah you know what I’m afraid of rejection. Getting it out there in the open is very freeing and it helps you be able to move on. The important part is, is don’t just validate it, but allow yourself to acknowledge and recognize that you are now moving past it. That you want to, you are willing to, you believe that it is worth it.

Yes, I fear rejection but I am now willing to move past it and I am able to move past it. Tip number 2 is to just realize that rejection happens to everyone, okay? Sometimes we feel like we are the only one and we must be broken in some way. No.

Guys, rejection happens to everyone. As a matter of fact I get rejected sometimes, you guys, even as a coach. It happens to everyone. Some of the guys I have dated have dumped me.

Sometimes I will flirt with the guy and he’s not interested. It is 100% normal to be rejected sometimes. Unfortunately this is just part of the dating process. We all want to just meet that one person, poof have it all work out and be wonderful, but the truth is that’s actually not realistic at all.

Very very rarely does somebody marry the first person they crush on or the first person they go out with. And actually often those relationships end up not being healthy because those two people didn’t take enough time to get to know more people. So it’s actually really healthy and normal to get to know several people, to flirt with several people, before you find the right one. So we have to be willing to put in the effort to keep trying and getting to know new people.

As a matter of fact God actually expects us to be willing to put in some effort and to pursue getting to know different people and to keep trying. So just know it happens to everyone, you aren’t alone. Number 3 is to keep it in perspective. If you saw this video then this is not going to surprise you at all. P.S.

If you haven’t seen that video check out the link in the description below. The truth is you can’t mess up God’s plan for you as long as you are trying. As long as you are actively trying. That’s the important part, make sure that you are actively trying. A friend of mine actually shared a story with me that was life-changing for me.

Hello my wonderful friend! Today’s video is on how to get a girlfriend and stop fearing rejection. I have six tips for you today that when applied will help you destroy the fear of rejection.

As a certified coach this is something I have researched a ton, I’ve applied these things in my life and I can tell you that they work. I also have a special bonus for you at the end of this video that I think you’re going to find very comforting and it’s going to be a huge surprise, so be sure to watch to the end. Before we get started be sure to subscribe and ring that notification bell. My name is Melannie, I’m a dating and relationship coach for Christian men. I help you get the girl of your dreams.

I’m also the creator of the online course How to Get a Girlfriend so be sure to click on the link in the description below to learn more about that. Now speaking about how to get a girlfriend one of the biggest things that holds so many good people back from their dream relationship and from getting a girlfriend is the fear of rejection. This can be very very paralyzing. First just know that this is totally normal, but you don’t have to stay there.

You can blast past it and have the girl of your dreams. So let’s get started with how to get a girlfriend and stop fearing rejection. Tip number 1 is to acknowledge and validate how you are feeling. It’s really hard for us to move past something and let something go if we’re hiding from it. You can’t really heal from a wound that you aren’t even acknowledging.

And so it’s important to just validate yeah you know what I’m afraid of rejection. Getting it out there in the open is very freeing and it helps you be able to move on. The important part is, is don’t just validate it, but allow yourself to acknowledge and recognize that you are now moving past it. That you want to, you are willing to, you believe that it is worth it.

Yes, I fear rejection but I am now willing to move past it and I am able to move past it. Tip number 2 is to just realize that rejection happens to everyone, okay? Sometimes we feel like we are the only one and we must be broken in some way. No.

Guys, rejection happens to everyone. As a matter of fact I get rejected sometimes, you guys, even as a coach. It happens to everyone. Some of the guys I have dated have dumped me.

Sometimes I will flirt with the guy and he’s not interested. It is 100% normal to be rejected sometimes. Unfortunately this is just part of the dating process. We all want to just meet that one person, poof have it all work out and be wonderful, but the truth is that’s actually not realistic at all.

Very very rarely does somebody marry the first person they crush on or the first person they go out with. And actually often those relationships end up not being healthy because those two people didn’t take enough time to get to know more people. So it’s actually really healthy and normal to get to know several people, to flirt with several people, before you find the right one. So we have to be willing to put in the effort to keep trying and getting to know new people.

As a matter of fact God actually expects us to be willing to put in some effort and to pursue getting to know different people and to keep trying. So just know it happens to everyone, you aren’t alone. Number 3 is to keep it in perspective. If you saw this video then this is not going to surprise you at all. P.S.

If you haven’t seen that video check out the link in the description below. The truth is you can’t mess up God’s plan for you as long as you are trying. As long as you are actively trying. That’s the important part, make sure that you are actively trying. A friend of mine actually shared a story with me that was life-changing for me.

I really admire her for this and what she taught me. Because the truth is guys, I really struggled with this for many years. She told me that she noticed this guy and she really liked him and he seemed to hang out with her a lot and and try to be around her whenever they were at the same setting. And so she started to think “Oh my goodness this guy likes me.” And she got really excited. Well one day he came to her and he said “Hey, your friend, I really like her.” Uh-oh. “Do you think she likes me too?” She was crushed.

That is awkward and painful and hurtful. And yeah guys, it stung and it was not a fun thing to go through. She was obviously happy for her friend but actually what made matters worse was her friend wasn’t even interested.

So it just was like salt in a wound and it was not a fun situation to be in. But what she shared with me that was just life-changing for me, was yeah it hurt, but ultimately I’m looking for someone who wants me, so if he doesn’t want me I don’t really want him. Pay attention to that I’m gonna say it again. I want someone who wants me, so if they don’t want me, I don’t want them. You have to keep it in perspective and you have to believe that there is a woman out there for you.

There are so many women out there praying to meet good guys and once you get past the fear of rejection you can attract them, you can find them. If it’s not this woman that’s okay there’s another one out there, because you want someone who wants you. Often why rejection hurts so badly is we’re afraid we missed the opportunity of a lifetime or we’re afraid our soulmate is gone forever. Guys, keep it in perspective.

If she doesn’t want you, it is not meant to be and you don’t want her. So you’re not the victim here, you’ve got to take your power back and say “Wait a second. I don’t want you if you don’t want me.” At the end of the day all it is is someone doing you a favor, not leading you along and just letting you know that they are one person that you don’t have to waste your time on.

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There’s a quote I love that I feel illustrates this so well, I’m gonna read it to you. If you want to heal your wounds, start healing your thoughts. Whoa. Powerful, right?

That’s deep. Part of this is changing your perspective. Quick question for you before we keep going. Should I do more videos on how to overcome the fear of rejection?

If I should type “Yes!” in the comments below. And we are to tip number 4 and that is don’t take it personally. Again, when somebody rejects us it hurts, right? It just does. And we translate it to mean something is wrong with us or we don’t have any worth.

Quick story for you. Long long before I became a coach and before I started learning how to attract healthy relationships, I just kept dating toxic guy after toxic guy. And guys, they would always dump me.

And to rub salt in a wound they would find their girlfriend or their future wife immediately after, like immediately after. And they’re all off getting married and having the time of their lives and I’m heartbroken. It was a lot of fun as I’m sure you can imagine.

It happened to me four or five times, no lie. And guys, that was a hit to my self-esteem. Can I just be honest with you? It hurt and I started asking myself “Well, do I have any worth?

If I had any worth why would these people just walk away from me and just forget me this quickly?” And what I had to realize was that it wasn’t actually a reflection on me. It was actually reflection on them, because they treated me so awfully, because again these were very toxic men. But also I didn’t take away from my worth, in any way. My worth was still intact, they just failed to see it and failed to recognize it and failed to want to work for it.

The truth is I have personally turned down some incredible guys, okay? I have turned down some very attractive guys who had so much to offer because of where I was at the time. This happens a lot.

So we really can’t take it personally if someone rejects us in some way or if they turn us down. She may be interested in someone else, I have turned guys down for that reason. She may be working through some things in her personal life, I have turned guys down for that reason. And she may be trying to recover from a breakup, I have also turned guys down because of that. So don’t take it personal, it is not a reflection on you.

One way to kind of fortify yourself against taking it personally is to remind yourself of all your good qualities and all the things that you are good at. Make a list of those things and read through them. If you need to go to a trusted friend or family member and ask them some of your positive traits and keep it on a list, guys, that is one of your biggest tools and your biggest assets.

Just like with me when I was like “Wow, maybe I don’t have any worth and that’s why these guys treat me like this.” No, that wasn’t it at all. I still had my worth it just wasn’t working out with these guys. And that’s okay, I didn’t need to take it personally. Building your confidence and your self-esteem is actually going to help you a ton with this. If you would like me to do more videos on confidence and how to build your self-esteem just type “Confidence!” in the comments below.

Now speaking of confidence we are to tip number 5 and that is that practice creates confidence. When we are terrified of something we tend to avoid doing it. But if we never do the thing we’re afraid of, we stay afraid of it, we stay trapped by that fear.

So doing something creates confidence in ourselves that we can do it and it creates competence. We become better at it. It’s just like any kind of skill or hobby. So sometimes we just have to practice it, we just have to do it over and over again until we just realize “Wow.

Nothing terrible happened. I didn’t die, nothing bad happened.” And as we teach ourselves that we become more confident in it. And the better your approach becomes.

You become better and better at dating, at approaching, at asking girls out, and you become less and less afraid of rejection. As long as you approach it with a healthy mindset and realize that you’re okay if it doesn’t go well, because there is an incredible woman out there for you and if it’s not this woman now you know to stop worrying about her and keep looking for that awesome someone. And we are to tip number 6. And guys, this is actually one of the most important. Make sure that you are not around toxic women, okay?

I get a lot of comments from guys who are absolutely crushed because of what these women did to them and how they rejected them. And what makes me so sad is a lot of these women are really really toxic. And guys, that will kill your self-esteem. Just like in the story I told you guys with the guys I was dating and how toxic they were, guys, I felt terrible because of how they treated me and that’s what toxic people do. So if you are really struggling with women just treating you terribly you need to be aware of the signs of a toxic woman.

What this does is it helps you spot them long before you ever get involved with them and be able to avoid them and instead attract healthy relationships with really good women. I’ve done a ton of videos on this. Be sure to check out the link in the description below. I have a whole playlist and it’s going to be a huge huge tool for you. So bottom line, toxic women are going to treat you like trash, they’re going to make you incredibly afraid of rejection, they’re going to guilt-trip you, so it’s just best, guys, to avoid them.

And that’s gonna help you overcome that fear of rejection so much quicker because you’re dealing with nice women now instead of jerks. And we are to our bonus. Did you know that it can actually be really cute and attractive to women when you’re just a little bit awkward? I know that does not sound like what we think, but it’s so true.

When a girl sees a guy who’s just a little bit awkward it kind of tells her that he thinks she’s really pretty and cute and that’s really adorable. It’s very endearing to a girl and it shows that you are genuine and interesting. Now obviously you don’t want to be painfully awkward. If you feel like you’re painfully awkward, first off all of these tips are going to help you, but also all my other videos are going to help you. The more competent you become the less awkward you are.

Awkwardness comes from not knowing what to do and just feeling nervous. If you feel like you’re painfully awkward be sure to check out my online course How to Get a Girlfriend. This will help you a ton and will make you incredibly competent. So you don’t want to be painfully awkward, but a little bit awkward is really cute. So don’t be afraid of approaching and interacting with a girl because you might be a little bit awkward.

The truth is that can be very charming and very endearing. There are plenty of heroes in movies and stuff who are just a little bit awkward and they’re some of woman’s favorite heroes because it’s really cute. And I’ll let you in on a little bit of a secret here. Guys, she’s a little bit awkward too, because you’re cute and she’s nervous. So it’s okay to sometimes just embrace the awkwardness a little bit.

Don’t let it hold you back and just enjoy it. There you have it. How to get a girlfriend and stop fearing rejection. To learn more about increasing your confidence, becoming incredibly competent and attractive when it comes to women dating and relationships check out my online course on how to get a girlfriend where you’re gonna learn all of these incredible skills. There is a link in the description below.

Thank you so much for watching my wonderful friend! Be sure to subscribe and ring that notification bell and give me a big thumbs up. Speaking of being attractive to women and getting a girlfriend, you need my free guide 17 Traits Christian Women Want Most in a Man.

Check out the link in the description below to get that free guide. I want to hear from you in the comments. Should I make more videos like this one?

If I should leave me a comment about it. And if you have any suggestions for future videos let me know in the comments as well. If we’re not yet friends on social media check out the links for that in the description below as well.

Be sure to share this with a friend. Friends don’t let friends struggle with the fear of rejection, so just click the share button beneath this video and shout it out on your favorite social media platform. Thank you so much again my amazing friend and have an amazing day [blooper beep] Before we get started my name is Melannie, I’m a dating and relationship coach for Christian men. I help you get the g- bleh… [laughter] Ok.

Let’s try that again. I help you bleh. That doesn’t even make sense. And share this with a friend friends do not let friends struggle with the sheer-.

With the sheer of fre- I don’t even know what I’m saying. [laughter] Fear of rejection. Not sure of whatever I was gonna say. Okay.

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