November 18, 2020

Midlife Dating Coach Women After Forty: How to Meet Men Over 40, Where to Meet Men, Daily 5 Date Tip

Dating

Hi. This is April Braswell. I’m a coach a dating expert here in Las Vegas [LV Singles Conference and Dating Workshops leader]. I I specialize in helping single boomer women [women in 40s, after 40 and 50, in 50s] get more dates.

When you get more dates you’re actually increasing your likelihood for creating a long term high quality intimate relationship that you want. Very specifically, I’m going to give you one of my greatest [creates results and bears fruit] tips which is to DO a DAILY 5. If you haven’t been on a date for more than 2 weeks, 2 months, or even 2 years, one of the things that’s most important to start with is to start building up the number of new people that you meet each day so that you actually create a dating pipeline. So, when you DO a DAILY 5 the goal here is to meet 5 new people every day.

I say three to five because look, I understand maybe you don’t live in a metropolitan area. Maybe you live a little more in the country or the suburbs or where really it’s an effort to meet new people But I called the DAILY 5 because it’s easy to remember. Now, what I want you to do is even if it is Saturday, you can get out and go implement this step today. And I know you can have success when you do that. I believe that when you are actually implementing these steps, you’re increasing your likelihood for finding your soulmate.

So, you’re gonna get up this morning you’re going to shower, do your makeup, do light makeup, look good. Do your hair. Get up and get out!

Saturday morning is actually a really really good time, I don’t know what it is about men, but then it’s a really good time to go be out in places.https://www.speedbrooklyndating.com/event-schedule There are men who are up and out early in the morning on Saturday. Go to a place where you can buy a newspaper. Go to a place where it is a store more than a newspaper stand where there are people milling around and they’re interacting with each other.

There’s a section where there’s some magazines. There’s a section where there’s some newspapers. And what you want to do actually is mill round. Don’t be in such a rush to get your newspaper and get out of there.

What you want to do is look at the headline. These are going to be your props. You want to look at some of the headlines. You want to pick up a magazine like THE ECONOMIST and purchase that. And look at some of the headlines and make some innocuous comment which is not too Democrat or Republican where you’re just making a statement anyone could respond to it.

Something like, “Wow, the economy really is difficult. We really need a boost.” Or, “Wow, Obama really is popular right now.” [This was filmed in 2009.] Now, if someone is a Republican they may trash that. If they’re a Democrat, they may be enthusiastic about it. You’re just making on little sentence, gently lobbing it into the air, and leaving an opportunity for someone else to return that back to you.

All you want to let them do is say one or two sentences. You are not today trying actually to pick someone up. You’re just practicing your social interpersonal interaction skills.

You want you to say one or two sentences to you. You reply with just one or two sentences. I’m being that specific because I know people where the minute, when they’re so nervous, and they have been doing this for awhile. The minute like someone new starts to talk to them they like glom onto them and start spilling their life story. You do not want to talk this person for 20 minutes when they’re trying to get out to go get their cup of coffee.

One to two sentences. They may say one or two things back to you. Smile. Wish them a nice day.

Go buy your periodical and get out of there. You’ve met one person. Next place you’re going to is you’re going to go to a coffee shop. Now one of the great things about coffee shops especially first thing in the morning or on a Saturday on the weekend is it’s pretty busy.

This is a good thing. Probably it’s driving you go crazy. During the week, I want to get in. I want to get out.

This is a God send. You actually want the line. Having a line gives you an opportunity to say something to the person in front of you and the person behind you. And part of you is thinking, “Well April what if maybe they’re not single what if they’re married or maybe what if it’s like my grandmother sort of a person there.” This is fine.

You’re just interacting with strangers. When you do this your whole demeanor and comfort level changes. You are more yourself in your own skin comfortable and happy with it and you’re a lot more magnetically attractive You’re smiling. You’re interacting with them.

These are light conversations. You go up. You get your coffee. You’re out of there.

You have met hopefully now an additional two people. It’s lunchtime. Only a couple hours later. You’re gonna go to a deli.

You can go to Safeway. Whatever is the grocery store near you. Maybe there’s a really good sandwich place near where you live.

Go there Same thing. “Uh, there’s a line.” [Impatient voice] Yay! Today that’s a really good thing. You’re going to talk to people behind you and in front of you and by now you’re probably talking to sort of two or three people. Maybe like someone’s with someone else.

And you’re like, “Oh that looks really good. What are you getting? Why do you like that? How does it taste?” These are these just innocuous things.

But the point is you’re interacting with them comfortably and you actually start to have short little conversations. Same thing. Handful of sentences.

This is meant to be short and sweet. In the afternoon, you can go to another coffee shop. You went to Starbucks in the morning. This afternoon you’re going to Peet’s or maybe Seattle’s Best.

Get something different. Meet new people. In the evening here we go to the grocery store or another kind of place like the deli thing like a Whole Food Market a Safeway. Someplace where the food is fairly pre-made where it’s really easy to get food that’s going to be you know the pre-made stuff for dinner.

A lot of people who are single go to the grocery store between five and seven and that’s a great time to meet people who are single. And frankly the singles are not necessarily the ones for hanging out at the butcher trying to get 10 pounds of chops. They are over by the deli trying to get food where it’s just kind of pre-made and I can go take this home with me You’re saying, “Thank you.” Interacting It is just, “Oh what is that? What does that taste like?

Oh how is that? Do you like the chicken? Is it good here? Is that moist? I’ve never had that.

What is it like? How do you cook that? You can even start to flirt with the people behind the counter which lets the other people who are just around you see, what a gracious comfortable and socially poised person you are, the ones who are attracted to you, notice this. By the end of the day today, you have met more than five new people.

You should be able to do this. Mix it up. Frankly you can go to the same five sort of places for the next five days.

But at the end of the week, I do want you to start to mix it up. Because it helps in terms of your attractiveness level. There have been studies done that you have by repeated exposure you’re actually increasing your attraction quotient with people.

Hi. This is April Braswell. I’m a coach a dating expert here in Las Vegas [LV Singles Conference and Dating Workshops leader]. I I specialize in helping single boomer women [women in 40s, after 40 and 50, in 50s] get more dates.

Relationships

When you get more dates you’re actually increasing your likelihood for creating a long term high quality intimate relationship that you want. Very specifically, I’m going to give you one of my greatest [creates results and bears fruit] tips which is to DO a DAILY 5. If you haven’t been on a date for more than 2 weeks, 2 months, or even 2 years, one of the things that’s most important to start with is to start building up the number of new people that you meet each day so that you actually create a dating pipeline. So, when you DO a DAILY 5 the goal here is to meet 5 new people every day.

I say three to five because look, I understand maybe you don’t live in a metropolitan area. Maybe you live a little more in the country or the suburbs or where really it’s an effort to meet new people But I called the DAILY 5 because it’s easy to remember. Now, what I want you to do is even if it is Saturday, you can get out and go implement this step today. And I know you can have success when you do that. I believe that when you are actually implementing these steps, you’re increasing your likelihood for finding your soulmate.

So, you’re gonna get up this morning you’re going to shower, do your makeup, do light makeup, look good. Do your hair. Get up and get out!

Saturday morning is actually a really really good time, I don’t know what it is about men, but then it’s a really good time to go be out in places. There are men who are up and out early in the morning on Saturday. Go to a place where you can buy a newspaper. Go to a place where it is a store more than a newspaper stand where there are people milling around and they’re interacting with each other.

There’s a section where there’s some magazines. There’s a section where there’s some newspapers. And what you want to do actually is mill round. Don’t be in such a rush to get your newspaper and get out of there.

What you want to do is look at the headline. These are going to be your props. You want to look at some of the headlines. You want to pick up a magazine like THE ECONOMIST and purchase that. And look at some of the headlines and make some innocuous comment which is not too Democrat or Republican where you’re just making a statement anyone could respond to it.

Something like, “Wow, the economy really is difficult. We really need a boost.” Or, “Wow, Obama really is popular right now.” [This was filmed in 2009.] Now, if someone is a Republican they may trash that. If they’re a Democrat, they may be enthusiastic about it. You’re just making on little sentence, gently lobbing it into the air, and leaving an opportunity for someone else to return that back to you.

All you want to let them do is say one or two sentences. You are not today trying actually to pick someone up. You’re just practicing your social interpersonal interaction skills.

You want you to say one or two sentences to you. You reply with just one or two sentences. I’m being that specific because I know people where the minute, when they’re so nervous, and they have been doing this for awhile. The minute like someone new starts to talk to them they like glom onto them and start spilling their life story. You do not want to talk this person for 20 minutes when they’re trying to get out to go get their cup of coffee.

One to two sentences. They may say one or two things back to you. Smile. Wish them a nice day.

Go buy your periodical and get out of there. You’ve met one person. Next place you’re going to is you’re going to go to a coffee shop. Now one of the great things about coffee shops especially first thing in the morning or on a Saturday on the weekend is it’s pretty busy.

This is a good thing. Probably it’s driving you go crazy. During the week, I want to get in. I want to get out.

This is a God send. You actually want the line. Having a line gives you an opportunity to say something to the person in front of you and the person behind you. And part of you is thinking, “Well April what if maybe they’re not single what if they’re married or maybe what if it’s like my grandmother sort of a person there.” This is fine.

You’re just interacting with strangers. When you do this your whole demeanor and comfort level changes. You are more yourself in your own skin comfortable and happy with it and you’re a lot more magnetically attractive You’re smiling. You’re interacting with them.

These are light conversations. You go up. You get your coffee. You’re out of there.

You have met hopefully now an additional two people. It’s lunchtime. Only a couple hours later. You’re gonna go to a deli.

You can go to Safeway. Whatever is the grocery store near you. Maybe there’s a really good sandwich place near where you live.

Go there Same thing. “Uh, there’s a line.” [Impatient voice] Yay! Today that’s a really good thing. You’re going to talk to people behind you and in front of you and by now you’re probably talking to sort of two or three people. Maybe like someone’s with someone else.

And you’re like, “Oh that looks really good. What are you getting? Why do you like that? How does it taste?” These are these just innocuous things.

But the point is you’re interacting with them comfortably and you actually start to have short little conversations. Same thing. Handful of sentences.

This is meant to be short and sweet. In the afternoon, you can go to another coffee shop. You went to Starbucks in the morning. This afternoon you’re going to Peet’s or maybe Seattle’s Best.

Get something different. Meet new people. In the evening here we go to the grocery store or another kind of place like the deli thing like a Whole Food Market a Safeway. Someplace where the food is fairly pre-made where it’s really easy to get food that’s going to be you know the pre-made stuff for dinner.

A lot of people who are single go to the grocery store between five and seven and that’s a great time to meet people who are single. And frankly the singles are not necessarily the ones for hanging out at the butcher trying to get 10 pounds of chops. They are over by the deli trying to get food where it’s just kind of pre-made and I can go take this home with me You’re saying, “Thank you.” Interacting It is just, “Oh what is that? What does that taste like?

Oh how is that? Do you like the chicken? Is it good here? Is that moist? I’ve never had that.

What is it like? How do you cook that? You can even start to flirt with the people behind the counter which lets the other people who are just around you see, what a gracious comfortable and socially poised person you are, the ones who are attracted to you, notice this. By the end of the day today, you have met more than five new people.

You should be able to do this. Mix it up. Frankly you can go to the same five sort of places for the next five days.

But at the end of the week, I do want you to start to mix it up. Because it helps in terms of your attractiveness level. There have been studies done that you have by repeated exposure you’re actually increasing your attraction quotient with people.

However if by the end of the, fifth or seventh day you want to be mixing it up so your meeting new people, and you’re there at slightly different times. By following your DAILY 5 you will actively be meeting new people each day. Next week I will include up at my blog (http://aprilbraswell.com/blog/) some tips that you can do once you pass this, and you’re like, “I’m comfortable. I’m meeting new people.

Now what do I do?” I will have it up on my blog. [Be sure to enter your name and email there for the weekly ezine newsletter] Happy Dating and Relationships. Thanks

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