July 23, 2020

[Introvert Relationship Ep 2] How to Keep Conversation Going – Small Talk to Deep Talk

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How do I keep a conversation going and go from small talk to deep talk? Hi guys! Welcome back to my channel If you’re new here, my name is Shannon and I’m a child of God You can check out some of the other things I do if you want Links in the description box below Today, I’m gonna share with you 1 easy way to keep a conversation going And go from small talk to deep talk I’m splitting this into a few videos, because it’s a deep topic And there’s a lot to dive into, including how to talk to women I also have a conversation cheat sheet for you which I explain a bit more T owards the end of the video, so watch on if you want that Today’s video is a follow up on How to Start a Conversation – Small Talk for Introverts which you can watch right over here If you’re watching it right now, pls remember to come back here! As an introvert, I really hate small talk Talking about the weather, the food, clothes Oh pls! You talk about clothes ALL the time!

Yea, that’s true. But not ALL the time I do like pretty clothes And I will ask a stranger where she bought her dress from, if I really like it And I will give a compliment to someone if I think (the clothing) is a beautiful piece But that’s small talk with strangers, no deep talk necessary But small talk is necessary if you want to go to deep talk, and to heart to heart talk So small talk is a safe ice breaker As much as introverts love our me time to recharge We still are social beings, cause no man is an island But you live on an island! (FLICK) I always believe in being genuinely interested in who you’re communicating with But the problem arises when we are with acquaintances, friends, maybe even dates And we have to spend at least 10mins to a few hours with them And the conversation gets stuck on small talk So whether it’s for personal reason – maybe you’re interested in the person And you want to know more about him or her Or maybe you can just click with this friend and you want to build a friendship Or it’s for professional reason – you want to get the deal Or you want to pick on somebody’s brain and learn from him or her Or you just want to network etc The key and premise is to not treat the person as a commodity Or a money making tool or a benefit.http://www.onechristianlove.com/ Those just turn people off. But instead, love the person genuinely as who they are Be interested in them as a person And see how you can bring any value to them and to the friendship Now we’ve established the premise, here’s 1 simple way On how to keep the conversation going from small talk to deep talk 4 people on 1 bed (DID YOUR PHONE BREAK??) What are you thinking of??

How do I keep a conversation going and go from small talk to deep talk? Hi guys! Welcome back to my channel If you’re new here, my name is Shannon and I’m a child of God You can check out some of the other things I do if you want Links in the description box below Today, I’m gonna share with you 1 easy way to keep a conversation going And go from small talk to deep talk I’m splitting this into a few videos, because it’s a deep topic And there’s a lot to dive into, including how to talk to women I also have a conversation cheat sheet for you which I explain a bit more T owards the end of the video, so watch on if you want that Today’s video is a follow up on How to Start a Conversation – Small Talk for Introverts which you can watch right over here If you’re watching it right now, pls remember to come back here! As an introvert, I really hate small talk Talking about the weather, the food, clothes Oh pls! You talk about clothes ALL the time!

Yea, that’s true. But not ALL the time I do like pretty clothes And I will ask a stranger where she bought her dress from, if I really like it And I will give a compliment to someone if I think (the clothing) is a beautiful piece But that’s small talk with strangers, no deep talk necessary But small talk is necessary if you want to go to deep talk, and to heart to heart talk So small talk is a safe ice breaker As much as introverts love our me time to recharge We still are social beings, cause no man is an island But you live on an island! (FLICK) I always believe in being genuinely interested in who you’re communicating with But the problem arises when we are with acquaintances, friends, maybe even dates And we have to spend at least 10mins to a few hours with them And the conversation gets stuck on small talk So whether it’s for personal reason – maybe you’re interested in the person And you want to know more about him or her Or maybe you can just click with this friend and you want to build a friendship Or it’s for professional reason – you want to get the deal Or you want to pick on somebody’s brain and learn from him or her Or you just want to network etc The key and premise is to not treat the person as a commodity Or a money making tool or a benefit. Those just turn people off. But instead, love the person genuinely as who they are Be interested in them as a person And see how you can bring any value to them and to the friendship Now we’ve established the premise, here’s 1 simple way On how to keep the conversation going from small talk to deep talk 4 people on 1 bed (DID YOUR PHONE BREAK??) What are you thinking of??

It’s Who What Where When How! In the last video, we used an example of talking to a colleague from another department Turns out she’s kinda boring and also a little bit negative. So how?

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Well, let’s imagine we’re in the pantry Hi, my name is Shannon. Have you watched any movies lately? Nah, I don’t like to watch movies Oh I see. What do you do in your free time?

Sleep I love sleeping too! You must be really tired What is it that makes you so tired and want to sleep during your free time too? Work of course!

Need you ask. Everyday I work until 9pm, it’s very very terrible Yikes, that sounds really tough on you. So how does it affect you and the people around you?

Argh. I have no time for anything My friends stopped asking me out because I keep rejecting them No life, I hate it I am so sorry to hear that Is there any way that I can do to make you feel better? No. I need to deal with it myself. Thank you She’s only used What and How, and the conversation went deeper than just “what movie did you watch” already And she got her colleague to let things off her chest a little bit Instead of just bottling it all up Of course, this is kinda in a bad case scenario where the person is having issues Most of the time, it’s much happier, but I just wanted to quickly show you How to manage negative energy So when we say deep talk, we usually mean going into opinions and emotions Knowing more about the person’s character, personality Strengths, weaknesses, what makes them tick or not and so much more What do you think of the movie?

When was a time you felt really fulfilled? Who is your favourite person? Where would you like to travel to and why? How did you overcome your fear of public speaking?

I’m not a big fan of asking “why did you do this”, “why did it happen” Because asking Why can tend to put people in a defensive mode So I’ll try to use how or how come instead How did it happen? How come you did this? Do note also that, people go from small talk, deep talk, to heart to heart talk When they feel safe with you When you are open and vulnerable with them as well I know it can be a lot to take in for 1 video, so I’ve put together a cheat sheet of Who What Where When How questions that you can use in your conversations I’ll put the link in the description box below so you can download it If you found this useful, pls give a thumbs up and share with your friends If you haven’t subscribed to my channel, I would love it if you do so And click on the bell, so you can be notified of new videos Thank you, have a beautiful day, and I’ll see you in the next video!

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