July 13, 2020

How to Deal with a Jealous Spouse | Jealousy in Relationships

Emotionally and Sexually

Are you in a relationship with a jealous spouse? You love them so much but you find it difficult to show your love, because no matter what you do you get questioned about it? Whether it’s where you’re going, the type of friends you hang out with, or what you want to do?

Well today that’s exactly what we’re going to talk about. Are you ready to find out how to deal with the jealous spouse? Here we go… Hey everyone you are watching TLC Thursday and I am your host and coach for today. My name is Christal Fuentes, Author of “How to Be H.O.T. – Your Guide to Becoming Happy Open and Trusting in Your Relationships.” As well as the Founder of The Ladies Coach.

A site that gives women free resources to make their lives a little easier. Jealousy and insecurity is something we talk a lot about on The Ladies Coach site, but we are going to talk about dealing with someone whose insecurity is getting in the way of your relationship. Before we do that let’s briefly talk about what jealousy is. Jealousy, envy, insecurity and judgment of others is just a voice inside our head screaming “I’m not enough!” It’s a fear-based emotion just like any other fear-based emotion we feel, like sadness, anger, depression. Jealousy is just an emotion.

It could come and go in an instant, just as anger can come and go in an instant. The problem is some people can live in these emotions without knowing they are. Jealousy is just one of those things people get trapped in, because it’s usually linked with anger or past hurts.https://realfree.dating/

What I believe and notice often, are people who regularly feel jealous are repressing some deep-rooted anger. In most cases an injustice that happened to them, making them feel not good enough. And the problem is they never got into the practice of letting it go.

Jealousy is just another way of saying “I’m angry with you,” only with jealousy we make up stories of why we’re angry. So now that we have a little understanding of where a spouse’s jealousy might be coming from, I want to let you know that you have zero control over someone’s baggage. Nor do you have the ability to heal a person. Everybody has the responsibility to do their own work.

Are you in a relationship with a jealous spouse? You love them so much but you find it difficult to show your love, because no matter what you do you get questioned about it? Whether it’s where you’re going, the type of friends you hang out with, or what you want to do?

Well today that’s exactly what we’re going to talk about. Are you ready to find out how to deal with the jealous spouse? Here we go… Hey everyone you are watching TLC Thursday and I am your host and coach for today. My name is Christal Fuentes, Author of “How to Be H.O.T. – Your Guide to Becoming Happy Open and Trusting in Your Relationships.” As well as the Founder of The Ladies Coach.

A site that gives women free resources to make their lives a little easier. Jealousy and insecurity is something we talk a lot about on The Ladies Coach site, but we are going to talk about dealing with someone whose insecurity is getting in the way of your relationship. Before we do that let’s briefly talk about what jealousy is. Jealousy, envy, insecurity and judgment of others is just a voice inside our head screaming “I’m not enough!” It’s a fear-based emotion just like any other fear-based emotion we feel, like sadness, anger, depression. Jealousy is just an emotion.

It could come and go in an instant, just as anger can come and go in an instant. The problem is some people can live in these emotions without knowing they are. Jealousy is just one of those things people get trapped in, because it’s usually linked with anger or past hurts.

What I believe and notice often, are people who regularly feel jealous are repressing some deep-rooted anger. In most cases an injustice that happened to them, making them feel not good enough. And the problem is they never got into the practice of letting it go.

Jealousy is just another way of saying “I’m angry with you,” only with jealousy we make up stories of why we’re angry. So now that we have a little understanding of where a spouse’s jealousy might be coming from, I want to let you know that you have zero control over someone’s baggage. Nor do you have the ability to heal a person. Everybody has the responsibility to do their own work.

If someone wants to make you the cause of their problems, or believe you have the worst intentions. In most cases, there’s very little you can do to change their perception if they’re not willing to do the work on their own, and heal their own deep-rooted issues. With that said let’s get into some things that could help us expand the scope of our relationship. First: When did this behavior even start? It’s important to identify when your partner’s jealous behavior began.

Did something happen within your relationship that could have caused this insecurity? Was there a lifestyle change? For example, did they recently lose their job?

Was there a loss in the family? Is there a financial strain? We are human beings and insecurity can come in stages for us, especially if there’s changes in our environment.

The more we pinpoint this, the more we are able to engage our spouse in an understanding and empathetic way. Once we do this, it will be easier to help our spouse through the tunnel. If their jealousy and insecurity just started to be a thing, pinpointing it will give you leverage on what you can do next. Now this is really important to hear, if your spouse’s insecurity was always an issue, then the real issue is with you my dear. Yeah I know this might sound tough to hear, but if you knew you were getting into a relationship with someone who showed signs of insecure behavior, then we need to shine a light on why you’re attracting these types of people.

If this is you please have no shame, we have tons of resources on why that could be, so stay tuned until the end of the video. The next thing I would consider doing is having a loving conversation with your spouse about what you both need from each other in order to feel seen, heard and understood. A good book I encourage every couple to read is “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. Everybody has their own love language and it’s important to understand what our partners language, is so that we can be successful with them.

Miscommunication leads us to disconnection, which disrupts the certainty in relationships. Which could be the cause of our insecurities. Also, I want us to remember that communication is not just in what we’re saying, but how we relate to our partner.

After all relationships are all about how we relate to others, and we can’t do this if we don’t understand what feeds another person. More often than not, our significant others are the last ones to get our energy, love, understanding and so I encourage you to open up this relationship by finding what feeds them. This advice doesn’t fit all relationships because again, if you’re with someone who was jealous and insecure from the start, there’s not really a strong foundation to grow on.

And in that case I would suggest doing deeper work on yourself, before shining a light on what your partner’s flaws are. At the end of the day you chose this person, and what you attract is a reflection of what’s happening within. So I want to hear from you, what’s one thing you can do to open up your relationship with your spouse? Did you get any new insights? I’d love to see them in the comment section below, and I will be down there if you have any questions.

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