June 8, 2020

Why Are Men So Clingy? – by Allana Pratt (for Digital Romance TV)

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Digital Romance TV. Hello, my dear friends of digital romance. Allana Pratt here, your intimacy expert, in beautiful Costa Rica, having so much fun, and answering your awesome questions, and this one says, “Allana, “why are men so clingy when you’ve been dating for awhile? “My boyfriend cannot be left by himself now. “We were so independent when we first started dating, “but I’ve been out of town on business, now, for “three weeks, and he’s picking fights “and being kind of bratty. “Is this a guy thing, or is this his immature “way of saying he misses me?” Notice that you’re being a little mean.

Notice the facts that you guys have been dating for a period of time, and that you’ve been away for three weeks. I mean, three weeks without a hug, kiss, sex, time together, okay, that’s not unusual for a man or a woman to kind of go, “meow,” and need some more attention. It doesn’t sound like he has a lot of communication skills in saying, “Hey, I miss you. “Hey, I would love to have some phone sex. “Hey, I would love to Skype and see your face. “Hey, I would love you to prioritize some time “in your three weeks away on business for us.” Like, something like he doesn’t have those skills to ask for that, so he sounds like he’s being kinda bratty, and it sounds like it’s annoying you. So I get that you have every right to be annoyed, and you’re the one asking the question, so you’re the one, I know it’s not fair, but who cares about fair?

We just want a life that works, right? So you’re the one that kinda gets what’s going on, so why don’t you bring in your feminine energy, invitational energy?https://www.elle.com/uk/life-and-culture/culture/g31147560/best-dating-apps/ Why don’t you take care of yourself on business? Excuse me, I have toexcuse me! Sorry about that.

Why don’t you take care of yourself on business ’cause there’s probably a lot of stress, traveling and business meetings, and all the rest of it. Make sure you go to the spa, go to the gym, have a nap, et cetera. Why don’t you also say, “Sweetheart, when I’m on business, “I want you to know that I love you just as much as when “I’m not on business, and I have a lot of demands placed “on me, but what would make me really, really happy is “if once every three or four days, we could meet for an “hour on Skype and a glass of wine. “I’m sorry I’m not gonna be able to text all the time, “and call you all the time, like I normally do when “I’m home and I’ve got more time because I’ve got so “many demands placed on me, but I want you to know “that you mean the world to me, I love you, and it “would make me so happy if you would plan a time “for us to meet on Skype, like every three or four days. “Could you do that for me?” So you kinda give him a job, you assuage his fears, you place healthy boundaries on what you need to do, but you still nourish your relationship. Just ’cause you’re away on business doesn’t mean your relationship doesn’t need watering, like a plant. You don’t water a plant for that long, unless it’s a plant that doesn’t need water like that, but you know what I mean.

Digital Romance TV. Hello, my dear friends of digital romance. Allana Pratt here, your intimacy expert, in beautiful Costa Rica, having so much fun, and answering your awesome questions, and this one says, “Allana, “why are men so clingy when you’ve been dating for awhile? “My boyfriend cannot be left by himself now. “We were so independent when we first started dating, “but I’ve been out of town on business, now, for “three weeks, and he’s picking fights “and being kind of bratty. “Is this a guy thing, or is this his immature “way of saying he misses me?” Notice that you’re being a little mean.

Notice the facts that you guys have been dating for a period of time, and that you’ve been away for three weeks. I mean, three weeks without a hug, kiss, sex, time together, okay, that’s not unusual for a man or a woman to kind of go, “meow,” and need some more attention. It doesn’t sound like he has a lot of communication skills in saying, “Hey, I miss you. “Hey, I would love to have some phone sex. “Hey, I would love to Skype and see your face. “Hey, I would love you to prioritize some time “in your three weeks away on business for us.” Like, something like he doesn’t have those skills to ask for that, so he sounds like he’s being kinda bratty, and it sounds like it’s annoying you. So I get that you have every right to be annoyed, and you’re the one asking the question, so you’re the one, I know it’s not fair, but who cares about fair?

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We just want a life that works, right? So you’re the one that kinda gets what’s going on, so why don’t you bring in your feminine energy, invitational energy? Why don’t you take care of yourself on business? Excuse me, I have toexcuse me! Sorry about that.

Why don’t you take care of yourself on business ’cause there’s probably a lot of stress, traveling and business meetings, and all the rest of it. Make sure you go to the spa, go to the gym, have a nap, et cetera. Why don’t you also say, “Sweetheart, when I’m on business, “I want you to know that I love you just as much as when “I’m not on business, and I have a lot of demands placed “on me, but what would make me really, really happy is “if once every three or four days, we could meet for an “hour on Skype and a glass of wine. “I’m sorry I’m not gonna be able to text all the time, “and call you all the time, like I normally do when “I’m home and I’ve got more time because I’ve got so “many demands placed on me, but I want you to know “that you mean the world to me, I love you, and it “would make me so happy if you would plan a time “for us to meet on Skype, like every three or four days. “Could you do that for me?” So you kinda give him a job, you assuage his fears, you place healthy boundaries on what you need to do, but you still nourish your relationship. Just ’cause you’re away on business doesn’t mean your relationship doesn’t need watering, like a plant. You don’t water a plant for that long, unless it’s a plant that doesn’t need water like that, but you know what I mean.

If you don’t give it sunshine, fertilizer, and water, it’s going to wither. Same with a relationship. There’s nothing wrong that he’s asking for. It’s just the manner in which he’s asking sucks.

It’s ineffective, that’s all. He just needs to learn. I honestly think when you get back from your business trip, if this is a relationship that you really believe has the foundation to go far, there’s clearly some communication skills that you don’t have.

Both of you. It’s not that hard, but it is foundational, if you’re gonna move forward and have this work, and have the best of both of you show up. So I encourage both of you to talk about that. “Hey, do you wanna do some work? “Nothing’s wrong, but it’s also not thriving the way “it could, and there’s this cool lady, Allana, “and we could do a series of sessions with her, and we “could really take our relationship from good to great, “great to glorious, and beyond.” So, AllanaPratt.com/connect is how you apply for a complimentary strategy session with me, and the three of us can get together, and if you’re a ten out of ten already, to do some work and grow in these skills, in the heart and communication. I know I can support your relationship.

If he’s not that important, and you’re not willing to put the work in, set him free. Be kind enough to set him free to find a relationship that does work for him, with someone that maybe doesn’t travel as much, but if he’s important, and your business is important, and your relationship is, there’s potential here. Let’s do the work for you. Just try it, yeah?

All right. I look forward to hearing from both of you. All my love If You want to understand men better than they understand themselves, go to www.digitalgomance.tv/secret, to watch special presentation where Michael Fiore explains the weird psychology of men and what men need to truly commit to a woman.

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