March 9, 2020

What is a Low Value Woman?

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– Let me see, just adjusting this a little bit, maybe more like this yeah. Okay so here we go, hello ladies. Hello ladies, I’m gonna give it a few seconds for you guys to pile up.

But anyway while you’re all piling up, let me introduce for you ladies today’s topic. And today’s topic is what is a low value woman? I will compare a low value woman to a high value woman okay? Okay so I see people are piling up, that’s awesome. And I will focus today more on taking responsiblity for yourself.

And I will share with you some amazing amazing stories. Okay so just sticking for the stories, it’s worth it. So I’ll give you examples of low value behavior, high value behavior and I’ll share some incredible stories okay? So basically the difference between a toxic behavior and a healthy behavior. A low value woman to a high value woman.

Slave and a queen. Okay it’s all the same thing. Okay also guys, just for you when you want, my name is Greta Bereisaite, I’m a dating and relationship coach for women only. And I upload videos, new fresh videos with free content every Wednesdays and Sundays. So if you want to learn and become the best version of yourself and be attractive and stay attractive to the opposite sex, subscribe to my channel and watch the content.

Okay so hey girls, hey all. I see everyone’s piling up, that’s really awesome. So I wanted to start this video with my post which got a lot of hate. And I saw so many women getting so defensive.

And when women get defensive, who do we attack?https://dopesontheroad.com/lesbian-sites/ Me okay. And you know what made me think. Then I make videos on how to set boundaries with guys.

Then I make videos how to handle their games. You know all you ladies are usually loving this and you’re like oh my God yes Greta, let’s blame men, men are awful, men are this, men are that right. You’re all like men blamers right. Then I make a post, take responsiblity for yourself right. Don’t be naive, don’t be gullible, don’t be silly, take responsibility for yourself.

All of you like majority 80, 90% go like no no no Greta, it’s you, it’s your fault, how dare you, we are amazing. Nobody wants to take responsiblity for themselves. Everybody wants to blame others. And this is what actually happened on my post. So I will start this from a post and I will kind of break it down for you ladies, that post.

And the thoughts that came from that post to where it’s high value low value behavior. And I will also break it down to you ladies good examples, some real life incredible, inspiring examples which will inspire you to be the best version of yourself. To be a queen that you were meant to be in the first place. And that you are, just you need to adjust it a little bit, improve yourself a little bit. Okay so and by the way ladies, I was not born this way as well.

Okay I have been naive, I have been gullible, I have been victimizing myself a lot in the past. This took a lot of personal growth. Okay, a lot of it to take responsiblity for myself, to put myself first, to love myself, respect myself, all of it. That’s a lot of personal growth, that’s a lot of personal investment.

I was not born this way and I’m not here to point fingers all right. I’m here ladies, look at yourself, take responsiblity for yourself and make yourself better. So you are happy and other people are like looking and drooling at you as well.

So this was the post, my latest post actually. It’s gonna have like this post right. So I’m saying ladies, naive gullible women with no self love will always be used and abused. A Prince Charming will not come to awake silly woman. No king will date a weak woman.

A king looks for a strong queen who can handle the empire with him. And I got so much hate on this oh my goodness, like it was just full on right. Now ladies let’s look at the toxic behavior now right. What is a toxic behavior?

A toxic behavior when a guy is abusing you right, an abuser, a bully. That person is acting in toxic right. That’s a toxic man, that’s a toxic behavior.

A toxic behavior is also victimizing yourself. A toxic behavior is being negative, is criticizing, it’s blaming others is a form of a toxic behavior. Blaming a guy and not taking responsiblity for yourself is a form of a toxic behavior. Victimizing yourself while you are being abused is a form of a toxic behavior. If you have abuser who’s behaving toxic, you have a victim who’s also behaving toxic.

So these two match, why? Because there’s abuser and there’s a victim. They are both toxic. Because if a victim was not toxic it would take responsiblity for itself, it would do the right thing and it would leave the situation.

Abuser can never abuse somebody who does not put themselves in a victim position. If you’re not gonna let a man walk all over you or disrespect you, it’s impossible for him to disrespect you and walk all over you because you’re just not gonna be there. You’re not gonna date a guy who’s gonna do things like that. Because you will know your own value, your own worth and you will do the right thing. Even if you love him, you will still do the right thing.

And so many girls were getting so offended and they were like well, you know if a man doesn’t want a weak women, I don’t need that man or whatever. Or they were saying, what did they say? “Where is your king?” Blah blah blah, all of that stuff right. Hold on ladies, I had a point, I lost it.

It happens on a live. So nowadays, what women do a lot. You know a lot of women said put themselves straight away we are weak, naive and gullible right.

They straight away put themselves as weak, naive and gullible and they attacked let’s say me back right. I did not call you girls weak, naive and gullible. You called yourself weak, naive and gullible. I said a queen will not be naive and gullible. I did not say you are weak, naive and gullible.

You’re the ones, you called yourself weak, naive and gullible, why, why? I personally would never call myself weak, naive and gullible. I would take responsiblity for myself and I would do the right thing. I would be like I’m not weak, I don’t want to be weak.

I’m not naive, I’m not gonna be weak, I’m not naive you know? Why are you calling yourself that? You are capable of being strong. You are capable of taking responsiblity for yourself.

Let me ladies give you now some examples so it kind of makes sense and doesn’t look like it’s blaming and so on right. So I will start from kind of far far away okay, far back. So let me go far. Right so for example, I had a grandma who went through a war.

All my grandparents went through a war right and this is what my grandma went through. She saw a body of her brother in front of her dead and she had to pretend that she does not know that it’s her brother. Otherwise, she would have been killed by soldiers right.

And I find out about this when I was already much older. She has never shared a word. She has never shared what she experienced. All my life as a child I saw her a very very strong woman. Right she has never put herself in a victim position.

She could have, all my grandparents could have. They all could have been like oh my goodness, I went through a war, I have so much toxic behavior, I’ve been so abused, this and this and that. But if they would have put themselves in the toxic position, in the victimizing position, they would have never been able to go forward and live their life. So what she did, she put the war behind and she raised the children in the best way that she could right.

She did not let the abuse continue. Now let me share some more, my mom was born in obviously in a very toxic environment. My granddad was cheating all the time.

My grandma put up with the abuse. My mom when she was 16, she left the family. She was in touch and all of that but she left the house because there was a lot of abuse.

And she was training very hard in basketball and she became European champion. So she came from a very toxic, toxic upbringing and she put herself first and she became European champion. Right she’s really well known. And what did she do?

She took responsiblity for her life. She had all the rights to go like I came from this upbringing, this is what my mom did. My grandma was abused all the time. She could have married a husband who was abusive and so on. She did not do that.

She took responsiblity for herself and she created an incredible life for her right. My dad, then my dad’s dad passed away when my dad was 20 and my dad was left with his mom and his two siblings. He started going to a job in I think metal factory to bring money to support the family.

He started studying and he became a famous rower as well. So he was rowing, studying and going to work to support the rest of the family. If he would have been victimizing himself and saying I am weak, I am gullible, I am naive, do you think he would be able to support his brothers and sisters, support his mom and become the man that he is today?

No he would have not. You see ladies my point is stop putting yourself in I am a weak and naive and I am fragile women. And it’s his fault, it’s his fault, it’s his fault, it’s his fault.

Take responsiblity for yourself, put yourself first and do the right thing. You’re not a naive, vulnerable fragile woman. You are that woman because you want to be that woman because that way it’s easy, you can blame others. You can point fingers and you can sit comfortably in the comfort zone going like oh he did this, he did this, he did that, how dare, how dare, how dare.

What instead of that you go like fuck it all right. I’m gonna do me, I’m gonna put myself first. I’m gonna become the best version of myself. I’m gonna be a queen and you all just watch me doing that right. This is what’s inspiring.

This is what motivates others. This is what makes the world a better place. If we inspire each other to be the best version of ourselves. Right if we inspire each other to be positive, to take responsiblity for ourselves, we will actually make the world a better place.

We will lift each other up. But when you ladies, when you victimize yourself, when you complain, when you point fingers, you’re actually spreading a toxic behavior. You go to your friend, your friend is complaining, you’re like yes yes yes don’t take any responsiblity for yourself, it’s his fault or it’s her fault. You’re spreading negativity and you’re making each other weak.

You are not weak. Our grandparents were not fighting wars for you to be weak and sit in the comfort zone all comfortably and blame others. This is not what the grandparents or our parents stood up for. They stood up, they went against the law for women to have rights, for you girls to be queens, for us to be inspiring women. For us to be able to achieve things, to do things in our life.

You only have one life. You’re lucky to be born, you’re lucky to be alive. Why sit there victimize yourself and go like I am naive, weak woman and I don’t have a man and nobody wants me.

Fuck it, go for your dreams. Go for your goals, be a queen. This is when everyone will see you as this inspiring person.

Ladies you know when my dad, all my life I see my dad introducing my mom as European champion to everyone because he’s so proud of that. He’s so proud to be married to a queen who has achieved so much. He’s always been like yeah that was her background, this is what she did. This is so inspiring, this is my wife. My mom, all her life she’s introducing my dad like yes he was a rower, he was called a mountain in his team because my dad was really tough.

Even the other rowers called him a mountain, that’s how strong he was. They are proud of each other. You know like attracts like.

Why would you not want to be that? Why would you want to waste your life? You only have one life, do something. If people who come from nothing, who came from abusive upbringing, who came from a war have dreams, have goals, have the passion to do something with their life, why can’t you?

You know what’s your excuse? Okay now once we have this done. I literally thought it’s gonna take me an hour, it took me 10 minutes. So let’s see what else I wrote down that I didn’t share yet. I think I said everything, shall we do the questions?

Shall we do the questions? Okay ladies so fire up with your questions. Yeah that was fast.

Ask me your questions and I’ll answer your questions. Let’s do an Q&A so this a bit of inspiring live. I was like this is gonna take me an hour. No it took me probably 10 minutes.

Okay cool so any advice for married women going through separation? Focus on yourself, focus on your dreams, see the light at the end of the tunnel. Focus on the light at the end of the tunnel.

Ladies my sister passed away, I don’t know do you girls know my story or not but I created this business on the rock bottom. I really did, on the rock bottom. My sister was dying from cancer. Everything around my life was crushing and what I focused was on the light at the end of the tunnel. And the light at the end of tunnel was this.

This is why you see how much love that I do. Even if you’re gonna go like many many videos back, you will see that I’m quite shy in this and starting filming these videos. It took me a long time to get to where I am and I got here because of my passion. So what happened was if you actually look at my story, I was sharing a house. I was living with oh my God, I have actually a video on that if you want to see where I lived before and who I lived with, I’ll put it here in a link after this video.

But my point is I created my business on my rock bottom. Okay I was like I know this stuff, I can do it. I got my best friends sister married, like he was taking her totally for granted.

And she showed me the ring, I was doing a video the next day because I literally held her hand through the whole thing. So she went from low value to high value and all of that. So then she showed me the ring, this is when I did my first YouTube video. And if you want to hear my story, I think I only have my story in my Ultimate Self Love package because I’m breaking it down for you ladies how I went through the whole thing, what I did.

How I went through the rock bottom, what kept me going and how I became who I am. So anyway my point is when you girls are going through separation or through a breakup, you know if you loved the guy you’re probably crushed and stuff like that. So find something that you really love to do. Something that you really really really love to do. And then you do that thing, you forget about everything else and that thing makes you feel good right.

So for me it was this, it was this business. It was giving the advice. It was holding girls hands and coaching them. It was focusing on creating, building my empire.

So what happened to me, everything around me was crashing, everything. My sister’s dying from cancer, she did pass away, my parents going really down because obviously like my sister passed away, me not having any money. I was working as a nanny. I started putting myself first.

I realized that I surrounded myself with low value people so I ended up letting them go because I was growing. Not that they were low value people, it’s just I was growing and they were staying here and we started clashing. And I was by myself as a figure in the rock bottom. And what helped me was creating this business because I saw it as a light. It made me happy.

So what I did through the whole day, I focused on this light. Right I focused on it. And when you focus on the light, you focus on what makes you happy, not on negativity because when you focus on negativity, you get more sad right.

What happens next, you feel weak. Listen you feel weak. You start blaming others, you start complaining. Right you get in a bad mood. That’s what happens when you focus on negativity.

When you find that light and it makes you happy and you focus on positivity. And when there is negativity around you, go and focus on your light. Somebody said something, focus on your light. Focus on your light. When you focus on positivity it gets bigger and it spreads right.

It gets bigger, bigger, bigger, bigger. So this is what I call my empire, this business right. I focused, it was tiny. I focused and it got bigger, bigger, bigger.

Now I live endless positivity. This is my life girls right, I love this. So again ladies, when you’re going through hard time, find something that makes you really happy and makes you forget about everything else and focus on it, focus on it. Put all your focus on positivity so the positivity spreads, not the negativity but positivity.

– Let me see, just adjusting this a little bit, maybe more like this yeah. Okay so here we go, hello ladies. Hello ladies, I’m gonna give it a few seconds for you guys to pile up.

But anyway while you’re all piling up, let me introduce for you ladies today’s topic. And today’s topic is what is a low value woman? I will compare a low value woman to a high value woman okay? Okay so I see people are piling up, that’s awesome. And I will focus today more on taking responsiblity for yourself.

And I will share with you some amazing amazing stories. Okay so just sticking for the stories, it’s worth it. So I’ll give you examples of low value behavior, high value behavior and I’ll share some incredible stories okay? So basically the difference between a toxic behavior and a healthy behavior. A low value woman to a high value woman.

Slave and a queen. Okay it’s all the same thing. Okay also guys, just for you when you want, my name is Greta Bereisaite, I’m a dating and relationship coach for women only. And I upload videos, new fresh videos with free content every Wednesdays and Sundays. So if you want to learn and become the best version of yourself and be attractive and stay attractive to the opposite sex, subscribe to my channel and watch the content.

Okay so hey girls, hey all. I see everyone’s piling up, that’s really awesome. So I wanted to start this video with my post which got a lot of hate. And I saw so many women getting so defensive.

And when women get defensive, who do we attack? Me okay. And you know what made me think. Then I make videos on how to set boundaries with guys.

Then I make videos how to handle their games. You know all you ladies are usually loving this and you’re like oh my God yes Greta, let’s blame men, men are awful, men are this, men are that right. You’re all like men blamers right. Then I make a post, take responsiblity for yourself right. Don’t be naive, don’t be gullible, don’t be silly, take responsibility for yourself.

All of you like majority 80, 90% go like no no no Greta, it’s you, it’s your fault, how dare you, we are amazing. Nobody wants to take responsiblity for themselves. Everybody wants to blame others. And this is what actually happened on my post. So I will start this from a post and I will kind of break it down for you ladies, that post.

And the thoughts that came from that post to where it’s high value low value behavior. And I will also break it down to you ladies good examples, some real life incredible, inspiring examples which will inspire you to be the best version of yourself. To be a queen that you were meant to be in the first place. And that you are, just you need to adjust it a little bit, improve yourself a little bit. Okay so and by the way ladies, I was not born this way as well.

Okay I have been naive, I have been gullible, I have been victimizing myself a lot in the past. This took a lot of personal growth. Okay, a lot of it to take responsiblity for myself, to put myself first, to love myself, respect myself, all of it. That’s a lot of personal growth, that’s a lot of personal investment.

I was not born this way and I’m not here to point fingers all right. I’m here ladies, look at yourself, take responsiblity for yourself and make yourself better. So you are happy and other people are like looking and drooling at you as well.

So this was the post, my latest post actually. It’s gonna have like this post right. So I’m saying ladies, naive gullible women with no self love will always be used and abused. A Prince Charming will not come to awake silly woman. No king will date a weak woman.

A king looks for a strong queen who can handle the empire with him. And I got so much hate on this oh my goodness, like it was just full on right. Now ladies let’s look at the toxic behavior now right. What is a toxic behavior?

A toxic behavior when a guy is abusing you right, an abuser, a bully. That person is acting in toxic right. That’s a toxic man, that’s a toxic behavior.

A toxic behavior is also victimizing yourself. A toxic behavior is being negative, is criticizing, it’s blaming others is a form of a toxic behavior. Blaming a guy and not taking responsiblity for yourself is a form of a toxic behavior. Victimizing yourself while you are being abused is a form of a toxic behavior. If you have abuser who’s behaving toxic, you have a victim who’s also behaving toxic.

So these two match, why? Because there’s abuser and there’s a victim. They are both toxic. Because if a victim was not toxic it would take responsiblity for itself, it would do the right thing and it would leave the situation.

Abuser can never abuse somebody who does not put themselves in a victim position. If you’re not gonna let a man walk all over you or disrespect you, it’s impossible for him to disrespect you and walk all over you because you’re just not gonna be there. You’re not gonna date a guy who’s gonna do things like that. Because you will know your own value, your own worth and you will do the right thing. Even if you love him, you will still do the right thing.

And so many girls were getting so offended and they were like well, you know if a man doesn’t want a weak women, I don’t need that man or whatever. Or they were saying, what did they say? “Where is your king?” Blah blah blah, all of that stuff right. Hold on ladies, I had a point, I lost it.

It happens on a live. So nowadays, what women do a lot. You know a lot of women said put themselves straight away we are weak, naive and gullible right.

They straight away put themselves as weak, naive and gullible and they attacked let’s say me back right. I did not call you girls weak, naive and gullible. You called yourself weak, naive and gullible. I said a queen will not be naive and gullible. I did not say you are weak, naive and gullible.

You’re the ones, you called yourself weak, naive and gullible, why, why? I personally would never call myself weak, naive and gullible. I would take responsiblity for myself and I would do the right thing. I would be like I’m not weak, I don’t want to be weak.

I’m not naive, I’m not gonna be weak, I’m not naive you know? Why are you calling yourself that? You are capable of being strong. You are capable of taking responsiblity for yourself.

Let me ladies give you now some examples so it kind of makes sense and doesn’t look like it’s blaming and so on right. So I will start from kind of far far away okay, far back. So let me go far. Right so for example, I had a grandma who went through a war.

All my grandparents went through a war right and this is what my grandma went through. She saw a body of her brother in front of her dead and she had to pretend that she does not know that it’s her brother. Otherwise, she would have been killed by soldiers right.

And I find out about this when I was already much older. She has never shared a word. She has never shared what she experienced. All my life as a child I saw her a very very strong woman. Right she has never put herself in a victim position.

She could have, all my grandparents could have. They all could have been like oh my goodness, I went through a war, I have so much toxic behavior, I’ve been so abused, this and this and that. But if they would have put themselves in the toxic position, in the victimizing position, they would have never been able to go forward and live their life. So what she did, she put the war behind and she raised the children in the best way that she could right.

She did not let the abuse continue. Now let me share some more, my mom was born in obviously in a very toxic environment. My granddad was cheating all the time.

My grandma put up with the abuse. My mom when she was 16, she left the family. She was in touch and all of that but she left the house because there was a lot of abuse.

And she was training very hard in basketball and she became European champion. So she came from a very toxic, toxic upbringing and she put herself first and she became European champion. Right she’s really well known. And what did she do?

She took responsiblity for her life. She had all the rights to go like I came from this upbringing, this is what my mom did. My grandma was abused all the time. She could have married a husband who was abusive and so on. She did not do that.

She took responsiblity for herself and she created an incredible life for her right. My dad, then my dad’s dad passed away when my dad was 20 and my dad was left with his mom and his two siblings. He started going to a job in I think metal factory to bring money to support the family.

He started studying and he became a famous rower as well. So he was rowing, studying and going to work to support the rest of the family. If he would have been victimizing himself and saying I am weak, I am gullible, I am naive, do you think he would be able to support his brothers and sisters, support his mom and become the man that he is today?

No he would have not. You see ladies my point is stop putting yourself in I am a weak and naive and I am fragile women. And it’s his fault, it’s his fault, it’s his fault, it’s his fault.

Take responsiblity for yourself, put yourself first and do the right thing. You’re not a naive, vulnerable fragile woman. You are that woman because you want to be that woman because that way it’s easy, you can blame others. You can point fingers and you can sit comfortably in the comfort zone going like oh he did this, he did this, he did that, how dare, how dare, how dare.

What instead of that you go like fuck it all right. I’m gonna do me, I’m gonna put myself first. I’m gonna become the best version of myself. I’m gonna be a queen and you all just watch me doing that right. This is what’s inspiring.

This is what motivates others. This is what makes the world a better place. If we inspire each other to be the best version of ourselves. Right if we inspire each other to be positive, to take responsiblity for ourselves, we will actually make the world a better place.

We will lift each other up. But when you ladies, when you victimize yourself, when you complain, when you point fingers, you’re actually spreading a toxic behavior. You go to your friend, your friend is complaining, you’re like yes yes yes don’t take any responsiblity for yourself, it’s his fault or it’s her fault. You’re spreading negativity and you’re making each other weak.

You are not weak. Our grandparents were not fighting wars for you to be weak and sit in the comfort zone all comfortably and blame others. This is not what the grandparents or our parents stood up for. They stood up, they went against the law for women to have rights, for you girls to be queens, for us to be inspiring women. For us to be able to achieve things, to do things in our life.

You only have one life. You’re lucky to be born, you’re lucky to be alive. Why sit there victimize yourself and go like I am naive, weak woman and I don’t have a man and nobody wants me.

Fuck it, go for your dreams. Go for your goals, be a queen. This is when everyone will see you as this inspiring person.

Ladies you know when my dad, all my life I see my dad introducing my mom as European champion to everyone because he’s so proud of that. He’s so proud to be married to a queen who has achieved so much. He’s always been like yeah that was her background, this is what she did. This is so inspiring, this is my wife. My mom, all her life she’s introducing my dad like yes he was a rower, he was called a mountain in his team because my dad was really tough.

Even the other rowers called him a mountain, that’s how strong he was. They are proud of each other. You know like attracts like.

Why would you not want to be that? Why would you want to waste your life? You only have one life, do something. If people who come from nothing, who came from abusive upbringing, who came from a war have dreams, have goals, have the passion to do something with their life, why can’t you?

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You know what’s your excuse? Okay now once we have this done. I literally thought it’s gonna take me an hour, it took me 10 minutes. So let’s see what else I wrote down that I didn’t share yet. I think I said everything, shall we do the questions?

Shall we do the questions? Okay ladies so fire up with your questions. Yeah that was fast.

Ask me your questions and I’ll answer your questions. Let’s do an Q&A so this a bit of inspiring live. I was like this is gonna take me an hour. No it took me probably 10 minutes.

Okay cool so any advice for married women going through separation? Focus on yourself, focus on your dreams, see the light at the end of the tunnel. Focus on the light at the end of the tunnel.

Ladies my sister passed away, I don’t know do you girls know my story or not but I created this business on the rock bottom. I really did, on the rock bottom. My sister was dying from cancer. Everything around my life was crushing and what I focused was on the light at the end of the tunnel. And the light at the end of tunnel was this.

This is why you see how much love that I do. Even if you’re gonna go like many many videos back, you will see that I’m quite shy in this and starting filming these videos. It took me a long time to get to where I am and I got here because of my passion. So what happened was if you actually look at my story, I was sharing a house. I was living with oh my God, I have actually a video on that if you want to see where I lived before and who I lived with, I’ll put it here in a link after this video.

But my point is I created my business on my rock bottom. Okay I was like I know this stuff, I can do it. I got my best friends sister married, like he was taking her totally for granted.

And she showed me the ring, I was doing a video the next day because I literally held her hand through the whole thing. So she went from low value to high value and all of that. So then she showed me the ring, this is when I did my first YouTube video. And if you want to hear my story, I think I only have my story in my Ultimate Self Love package because I’m breaking it down for you ladies how I went through the whole thing, what I did.

How I went through the rock bottom, what kept me going and how I became who I am. So anyway my point is when you girls are going through separation or through a breakup, you know if you loved the guy you’re probably crushed and stuff like that. So find something that you really love to do. Something that you really really really love to do. And then you do that thing, you forget about everything else and that thing makes you feel good right.

So for me it was this, it was this business. It was giving the advice. It was holding girls hands and coaching them. It was focusing on creating, building my empire.

So what happened to me, everything around me was crashing, everything. My sister’s dying from cancer, she did pass away, my parents going really down because obviously like my sister passed away, me not having any money. I was working as a nanny. I started putting myself first.

I realized that I surrounded myself with low value people so I ended up letting them go because I was growing. Not that they were low value people, it’s just I was growing and they were staying here and we started clashing. And I was by myself as a figure in the rock bottom. And what helped me was creating this business because I saw it as a light. It made me happy.

So what I did through the whole day, I focused on this light. Right I focused on it. And when you focus on the light, you focus on what makes you happy, not on negativity because when you focus on negativity, you get more sad right.

What happens next, you feel weak. Listen you feel weak. You start blaming others, you start complaining. Right you get in a bad mood. That’s what happens when you focus on negativity.

When you find that light and it makes you happy and you focus on positivity. And when there is negativity around you, go and focus on your light. Somebody said something, focus on your light. Focus on your light. When you focus on positivity it gets bigger and it spreads right.

It gets bigger, bigger, bigger, bigger. So this is what I call my empire, this business right. I focused, it was tiny. I focused and it got bigger, bigger, bigger.

Now I live endless positivity. This is my life girls right, I love this. So again ladies, when you’re going through hard time, find something that makes you really happy and makes you forget about everything else and focus on it, focus on it. Put all your focus on positivity so the positivity spreads, not the negativity but positivity.

How should I get a confidence back when I had a few surgeries due to domestic violence? If I find a man I would have to explain, I have been single for 16 years. If you will love yourself, if you learn how to love yourself.

If you learn how to be higher value let’s say, after awhile like when a guy will meet you and you love yourself and this and this and that. After awhile when you get to know the guy, right when you really get to know and you can trust that person, you can open up where are these things coming from? You know but you’re not gonna be feeling vulnerable about opening it up because you’re gonna be strong.

You’re not gonna be let’s say embarrassed over it or anything like that because it’s not gonna be you anymore. The only time we feel embarrassed about our failures, if we still feel like that person right. Like for example if I share my failures with you guys, I laugh at them because I’m not that person anymore. So it’s easy for me to share it because I’m like well that’s not me anymore. You can all laugh at what it was because I’ll laugh with you probably because that’s not me anymore.

But when it’s still you and you open your failures or something that you feel insecure about and people pick on it right, then it really hurts you because it’s still you. You see so work on your insecurities, become strong and then whatever anyone says it’s not gonna affect you. That was easy to say right, it takes a lot of work ladies, it does take a lot of work. You know like it takes a lot of work.

But it’s the beauty of life. There is a very good example, I probably shared it before and it’s for personal development and for relationships for anything in life. And one of the stories that I shared as well, you can apply it for anything in life, for business, just everything right, it’s like tools to live a happy life, this is what I’m providing for you. Mike Clan gave a very good example and she said, Relationship, business, love, anything, anything right. When things are comfortable and the same, let’s look at the water so when you have a pond.

And a pond is still right. After awhile it gets moldy, it gets disgusting. And after awhile, even if you’re gonna go in it, you’re gonna start sinking right it gets so moldy. So everything in life needs to move, it needs to grow. You cannot stay in the same place.

So when you ladies invest in your personal growth, invest in yourself, your core self. Not about just like what games guys play and stuff like that and how to have him all wrapped up but truly invest in yourself and grow as a person, this is when you actually feel happy because it’s not up to a guy to make us happy, it’s up to us to make ourselves happy. It’s like we’ve been conditioned that it’s a man, a guy, a guy, a man you know all of that but it’s just conditioning from young age. It’s our responsiblity to grow and to make ourselves happy.

And the only way you will be happy if you face your fears and grow. Nothing good happens in a comfort zone. Relationship does not grow in a comfort zone. It’s like a pond, it gets nasty. Okay questions, dot need to dot.

The screen just went blank to see hi. Because I need to see a, yes here we go, modern dating scene apps only in one night stands. Ignore it, just ignore it.

The right guy will come. A guy will take what’s on a plate. He’ll take off what’s on a plate and he will manipulate it. You know that’s what it is. You know what the games are good for?

Knowledge, like you know what’s the best way to control your emotions is through knowledge. We lose our emotional control because we don’t understand. We assume and in many case to protect ourselves, we assume the worst okay.

So then you assume the worst like he did something and you don’t understand. Right he’s doing something and you’re like oh my God, what’s happening? And you don’t understand what it is exactly or you don’t know.

And when you assume the worst, you lose your emotional control based on paranoia. Right so this is why the guy ends up calling you crazy because you lose your emotional control based on paranoia. Right but then you know the games, then you know all of it. When you have the knowledge and when you can read the other person, there is no reason for you to assume the worst because there’s no assumptions, you can read the person. You know so that is how it is.

And wait what was I talking today, yes, this is what happens a lot with the girls. You know it’s when you have the knowledge how everything goes in the relationship and in life, you don’t live in a fantasy, you don’t live in a fairy tale. What happens to a lot of naive women is that we live in a fantasy, we live in a fairy tale. We’re not even dating the real person, we are dating their bullshit.

So we end up wasting five, six, seven years dating a guy who goes a lot of blah blah blah, blah blah blah who’s words don’t match up with his actions. But the girls goes like oh maybe next time, maybe next time, excuses this and that right. They give him excuses and then they waste five years, seven years with that guy, sometimes even 10 years with a fantasy. It’s not even the real person, you wasted with a fantasy. What high value does, what we advise that your healing does, it takes off all that fantasy from the person.

Because you have the knowledge, you can see right through them and then you know exactly who you are dating. We cannot put a shield, there is no glass, there is nothing. You see right through them. And then you see right through them and you’re like okay, I’ve been on one date, I don’t like this. I can see second date like this, third date, is that good enough for me, right?

Because you see the real person. When you understand all this, you see the real person. Ladies, the real person is not as nice as the fantasy, trust me. Unless it’s like a guy who never bullshits and who just shows everything with his actions which there are actually guys like that, it’s really interesting because there are guys like that. But you know a lot of times what women do, they invest in their fantasy.

The guy’s just charming, he gives you flattery promises, first date flattery promises, second date flattery promises. Then you already slept with him, you’re all invested. What he gives you, he gives you more flattery and promises. It’s lack of knowledge, that’s all there is.

It’s lack of knowledge and falling for the fluff. Don’t see here, okay. Let’s see, love you too.

I think you pushing pushing women to be strong. I’m disgusted from the phrase strong woman. I associate with muscles and mustache.

That’s why men are feminized nowadays. Okay let’s rephrase that, I don’t like the phrase a strong woman either right. I don’t want, if I’m really honest I don’t like the phrase a strong woman okay. I like the phrase a feminine woman right. Like when I meet guys, everyone calls me very very feminine.

Like all my life I’ve been called, all my life before I became a dating coach, I was called extremely sensitive, very emotional and very feminine right. Like this was me, I was ultra sensitive. That was like everybody was thinking Greta will never reach anything in life because she’s so sensitive right. Like was always the most feminine one right.

And you can be feminine, it’s good for you to be feminine. You are here to complement each other but you need to be strong ladies. You need to be strong as well.

You don’t need to be aggressive, I’m not aggressive. You just need to be strong. Don’t be naive, don’t be gullible. Naive and gullible, if you stay naive and gullible, that’s not even weak, that’s stupid. Like a man does not, he’s not gonna like a stupid woman.

He will disrespect that. That is what naive and gullible is. What I’m telling you ladies, just have the knowledge. You know all the need is the knowledge.

Be feminine and have the knowledge. Have the knowledge how to do the right thing. Okay for example, like financial control. You don’t need to be strong to have money, you just need to have the knowledge. Women are smart, we are not dumber than guys.

You can have the knowledge and you can do things in a feminine way and achieve your feminine empire. Is my empire here masculine empire? Look at this ladies. I’m example of building a feminine empire.

All I do all day is talk to women. I don’t have any guys working for me. I like the feminine environment. You know like it’s beautiful. This is the beauty of life, you can be a feminine woman and you can achieve your feminine goals.

If your goal is have a hobby knitting right, if your goal is to knit, you can knit and make it into your hobby, make it into your empire, make it into your goal. If your goal is to bake beautiful cakes, bake beautiful cakes, be feminine, make it into a goal. There is a million feminine things that you can do and make it into your empire. You don’t need to become a man, that’s the last thing that you need to do. You know it’s about complementing each other in the relationships.

But ladies another thing that is really important and I think we should not be dumb and we need to be smart. And I’m gonna share another example which I actually nearly forgot. It was shared by a guy who is right now, he’s earns like 10 millions a year but this is his story. He has a couple brothers and sisters, he had a mom, he had a dad. His dad was a drug dealer, a pretty famous drug dealer in LA and the police, they basically put him into jail.

And he was pretty famous, they all had lots of money. He grew up in a very very wealthy upbringing. And so the mom was looked after, the kids were looked after and obviously the dad, they all had a very rich background, wealthy background because of the dad being the drug dealer. And when police took him away, they lost the house and everything within a year. He said we lost everything within one year right.

And him, his brothers and sisters and his mom moved into a shared house and they all shared one room. And the mom was working, going to work as much as she can to provide for the kids. Now my point is ladies, be a plan B. You know like I understand yes let’s say a man is a provider.

You know maybe he should be the head of the house. But be a plan B. You know build that empire together. You never know what’s gonna happen.

This is life, it’s teamwork. You know what if he gets sick? My dad got sick, there was a time that he got sick for a couple of years because he had heart surgery so he couldn’t get out of bed. Who do you think was providing for the family? My mom was.

If she would have not provided, we all would have been on the street. It’s life, life is not easy. Life is not easy. You know you have to have a plan B in life. You have to have a financial knowledge.

You have these opportunities now to do this. You know we are not restricted as women anymore. We can have this, we can build it. Look at Michelle Obama, look at Oprah.

You know these are incredible women examples. What are you gonna do? If you’re always depending on a man, he will look at you as a baggage.

He will look at you as another child. What happens if something happens to him? How are you gonna feed your children? How are you gonna dress your children? You know it’s sad.

Another example that I have actually, I have lots of examples. There was one lady that I coached, not one like many ladies from that, anyway let’s call it there were a couple ladies so anyway. And she basically this is what happened. She was in abusive marriage, in a very abusive marriage. She had children, she was in a very abusive marriage.

The children were begging her to leave her husband right. And it got so abusive the police got involved, she was raped and it was disgusting right. She left the husband, right she left the husband.

She was very naive, she was very gullible, he was manipulating her all the time. She left the husband and he begged her back right when she left him and she went back to him. Right she went back to him. Do you think her children, she’s a grown up woman, do you think her children respect her for that? How do you think her children are being with her now?

The husband was not abusing just her. The husband was abusing the children too. They’re like mom, you’re going back to dad because now he says he loves you. So you’re being selfish and you’re being naive and gullible and you’re going back into the mouth of a gorilla who’s gonna eat you alive and is gonna abuse the children again. So which woman do you think, you know what I mean?

And it doesn’t make sense ladies. What do you say to that? Yes you can give excuses, oh it’s love.

But what about the children? You know it’s not just about you, what about the kids? They are suffering. Now you’re going where because you’re going for the love because you’re actually selfish and you need some cuddles and attention and all of that. This is why you’re going there so you’re actually ignoring your kids.

You’re ignoring their health, you’re ignoring their well-being. So how is this woman going to be respected? This woman will be respected if she leaves the husband and she puts herself first and she starts looking after her children because this is abuse. This guy is not just danger to her, it’s a danger to her kids as well. But no, this woman instead chooses to be gullible and naive and follow the love who’s gonna abuse her and abuse her children.

So you ladies making posts on you know what I mean, you have to be smart. You have to be strong in here right. I don’t tell you girls to go to the gym and do boxing or fight men or anything like that. I would never lift a finger against a guy myself, I’m not that type of woman.

You’re watching the wrong coach if you think I’m gonna be coaching you how to be aggressive. I am not aggressive in person. Like nobody would ever in my life would call me aggressive. But you can set in your boundaries in a feminine womanly way if that’s who you are. You can say no.

You can say please don’t talk to me this way. Okay he’s getting aggressive. Okay I see that, I’m gonna leave now and I’m not gonna be there anymore. I’m not telling you to fight or take his head off or punch you know, like that’s actually quite dangerous punching a guy.

You know if he punches you back, you’ll fly off probably across the room right. I’m telling you to remove yourself from that situation. How is that aggressive? That’s not aggressive, that’s being feminine.

That’s knowing your value and worth. And when you know your value and worth, this is when you go and reach your goals because you’re like wow, I am something, I am unique, I am incredible. I was born, I bet I can make this world a better place. Unless you’re Laila Ali yeah.

I feel good, what he’s thinking, you are a prize, he should be. Okay so you girls are helping each other out. Here you go, ladies these ladies are helping each other out with the comments. Is that being strong and masculine or that just being feminine and helping each other out? Same thing, same thing.

Is that masculinity? No it’s not, you can do something. Should we go underground working on our insecurities before going out or meeting people? Professionally I’m not where I want to be and people are nosy and asking.

Hiding makes me feel fake though. I would keep it to myself. Keep your insecurities to myself because there’s a lot of manipulative people out there who play games and who will play games on your insecurities. And it’s not just men who do that. A lot of times we assume of others of who we are.

Like for example if you’re a nice person, you will automatically assume that the other people are nice as well. If you’re a manipulative person, you will automatically assume that other people manipulate a lot as well. So if you have a lot of insecurities and you share it with the wrong person, you might as well, you’re potentially digging yourself a hole. If you want to talk and share it I understand that we as women we need to talk. I talk when I feel bad.

The first thing I need to do is go and share because I need to talk to somebody to lay it out because it will make me feel better. As I say I’m a woman right so I understand that. But when you need to have your safe person that you can talk to. You know for me the safest person would be my mom.

Everyone else, yes of course I have some safe people but you know what I mean it’s like if you want to share your insecurities, share it with somebody who’s really really safe. Don’t share it in your work environment where you don’t know people, that is very risky. The only thing a woman has to be strong is let a man who can invest in her go. That’s not the only time hun.

The only time a woman has to be strong is let a man who can’t invest in her go. If that’s the only time that a woman needs to be strong is let a man who can’t invest in her go, then none of the guys would come for that woman, she’s always weak and naive and gullible. She will never attract a man who will invest in her in the first place.

Like a man does not look for a baggage or a child to look after. A man is looking for an equal. Ladies if you want to have a happy relationship, you need to be an equal to him. If you’re gonna be here and he is here, he will walk all over you. If you’re gonna be here and he is here, you’re not gonna respect him.

You need an equal, that’s how it works. And again like attracts like. What I see as a king, you may not see as a king right. Everybody’s different, everybody has a different idea for a king or a queen. You don’t need to be me, you can be you, you need to be who you’re meant to be in order to attract the right king for you.

Like attracts like right. It is important to focus on being queen but that decision itself won’t bring you there. It is inner work, yes. Releasing childhood trauma which brought you to low value woman in the first place. It is, it’s working on it, it’s working on it.

Yes, everybody has childhood trauma. Ladies, I say low value woman or I say toxic people but majority of us came from a toxic environment. When you think about it, again going back to the grandparents or parents. If my grandparents seen a war right, they’ve been in a war, what type of people do they think they were? They were toxic people, why?

They went through a war. What is war about? If you want to survive a war, you need to know the games.

You need to know the manipulation. You need to know this stuff. Otherwise you’re not gonna be able to survive a war.

My grandma was hiding a Jewish person at that time in a basement. She could have been killed, her whole family could have been killed. In order to do that, it doesn’t necessarily make you a nice person. You need to be a manipulative game player person in order to do that right.

You need to manipulate the soldiers. You need to learn how to lie right. This is what the grandparents of many of us went through. Now if this is what our grandparents know the best, what do you think they taught to their children?

To my parents then they taught what they know the best. How to manipulate, how to play games, how to be dodgy right, this is how you’re gonna get away with this stuff and this is how you can do this and let me give you this secret and this secret right? So what do you think my parents taught me? Obviously my parents were not born into war.

My parents were born after war and they were obviously trying to make me a good person. But they still gave me some toxicity right. Like the toxicity is still there. So I knew how to victimize myself pretty well.

I knew how to do this, I knew how to do that. This is how it is. So what you do now. We all, what I’m saying the majority of us came from a toxic upbringing and it’s normal, it’s actually normal. Over 80% of us came from a toxic upbringing.

But what do we do with this toxicity? We can take it to our children or we can change that. And now when you think about it, I don’t have a war to fight. I don’t have this to do or that to do so I might as well take the toxicity that someone gave me and make it the right thing and do the right thing and maybe achieve my goals instead right, instead of blaming.

Blaming oh this is bad person, like we all bloody came, a majority of us. Unless it’s a country that lived I don’t know maybe some kind of island in Atlantic, I don’t know in some kind of ocean or somewhere was never affected and they’re still all positive happy people, they just pray and are happy and hum and all of that. So maybe we should move to that island. That’s where Hawaiian people live. I had rather be a princess than a queen.

A princess gets treated and a queen has to look after the king. Okay, princess, queens, geez. Okay, I am in my 30’s but look 25.

So that’s good, congratulations. The belief that women aren’t valuable when they hit their 30’s. Oh my God this is most ridiculous thing. And I actually was talking to this girl recently, she was complaining to me.

Because actually one guy, this is what he does. So my friend, she’s 36 and one guy sends her a video. So he’s pursuing her right and he sends her a video of the people who created this video that women are not valuable after the age of 30. So he’s pursuing her and he sends her that video. She blocked him everywhere.

And then he begged her to unblock him. But this is a very dumb strategy that actually guys do. Be like oh you’re 36 and I’m pursuing you. You should feel lucky because this is how women are after 30 right so it’s just ridiculous.

Anyway I actually have a video on this. I have a video on this, do women lose their value after 30? And no we don’t. How can you lose your value when you’re growing? It does not make sense ladies, think about it.

How can you lose your value when you’re growing? Like this does not make sense. When you buy a house, in the beginning when there is a house.

There’s the beginning, I don’t know what it’s called, like the bloody beginning of the house and you build it, you build it, you build it. After 30 years the house has a lot of value, it’s not just the beginning. It’s pretty, it’s nice, maybe you invested, maybe you’re making money out of it. The same goes with a woman. After the age of 30, if you invested in your personal growth.

If you invested in yourself, if you invested in your empire. Ladies, if I look at myself at 25 and if look at myself right now, you can’t compare the two. Like how much value I have now and had much value I had then, you can’t compare.

It’s like this comparison. Sorry, I would go like this but it’s not gonna fit into a screen. So how does this make sense? It does not make sense.

It’s like guys who buy pretty things and spend the money on pretty things, these are guys who talk about this stuff. Guys who know about investment. Men who know about growth, who know about personal development. This will never come out from their mouth.

Guys who want to manipulate woman and who want to use them and keep them low value because that’s how you can use them and walk all over them and take their cookie, these are the guys who will spread this bullshit. It’s BS, it’s ridiculous, it’s actually something to laugh at, it’s funny. Like I would laugh at it, this is funny.

It’s ridiculous. Okay ladies I’m gonna go because I’ve been already 53 minutes. So if you liked this video please like it.

Let me know in the comments below. I have a surprise for you for next week. I have couple of surprises actually, really amazing surprises.

One for my Instagram so make sure to follow me on my Instagram so there is a massive surprise coming to you all but it’s a secret. And it’s coming very soon. Probably maybe on Monday, tomorrow or Tuesday on my Instagram and if you follow me you will all get to share that surprise. And the other surprise is coming soon as well, I’m very very excited with that. It’s gonna come for the YouTube channel so super excited for that but I can’t tell you.

So you’ll see it for yourself. Actions speak louder than words okay. So thank you so much ladies. Like it if you liked it, share it with the ladies who need it. And if you want to join my Ultimate Self Love or want to know my story, how I have all done it.

How I was focusing on this light and everything was rock bottom and if you’re going through a similar thing, I’ll tell you exactly how I did it and what I did. So you can get that course in this video description. Yeah okay and have a beautiful day, kisses.

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